Women usually want to talk - A LOT! especially during the most depressing moment of our lives - the break up. During this moment, we just want to narrate the story over and over again to our friends who at first seem to be concerned but eventually they'll get tired of our whining.
Note to self, don't talk much to your friends who didn't experience a heart-wretching break up, you may have different stories but the feeling is more likely the same. You'll know them because they are the one who would say these stupid things right after break up.
1. ARE YOU OKAY?
Am I okay? We just broke off, so do you think I am okay? I honestly don't know how to respond to this stupid question because if you say "NO!" they'll pity you and if you say "YES!" they have that questionable look in their eyes. Of course I am not ok (yet) but I know I will be.
2. MOVE ON!
Oh common, don't you think that I know that? Of course, I want to move on and as simple as it is to say, it's so hard to do because it's a process. Who on earth would want to get stuck on this pain-staking break up? I know I don't want to but it just takes time and action.
3. THERE ARE A LOT OF FISH IN THE SEA
Woooow! Really? I didn't know that. Duuuuh! Do you really think I care about the billion of other fish in the sea right now? I just lost one, he might not be the best fish in the sea but hey I've invested on that stupid fish. Right now I don't need another fish.
4. FINALLY YOU CAME TO YOUR SENSES
You really think so? Well, I know he can be a jerk sometimes and it took me awhile to realize that he was not good but you don't have to rub it in my face that I got blinded by the red signals.
5. WHAT IF HE'LL COME BACK?
Right now? Then I wouldn't be sulking here all day, feeling depressed and not wanting him back, right? Even if I want to wrap my arms around him and tell him I miss him so much, that really would just jeopardize everything all over again. So don't let me think of that or else I might do something stupid.
6. IT'S GOOD TO BE SINGLE
Right now? Then I wouldn't be sulking here all day, feeling depressed and not wanting him back, right? Even if I want to wrap my arms around him and tell him I miss him so much, that really would just jeopardize everything all over again. So don't let me think of that or else I might do something stupid.
6. IT'S GOOD TO BE SINGLE
Are you sure? I know being single is great and I've been single for quite sometime too but that's no longer what I want right now. Some who are in a relationship might want to be single again, then try it and we'll see how good it is.
7. I KNEW IT WAS COMING
Thanks for being a psychic friend, and slapping me with "I-told-you-so". I didn't predicted it to end, can't you see? I tried my best to keep the relationship from going down the drain and it's painful to see. Don't tell me you knew because I didn't want it to happen in the first place.
8. STOP THINKING ABOUT IT
Do you have an amnesia pill there? Because no matter how I try not to think about it, I can't stop my mind and it's giving me a headache already. I have been flipping my thoughts every minute, now I'm beginning to flip. It would be easy to hit your head on a wall just to forget about it.
If you have a friend going through a break up, all you really need to do is LISTEN. Don't give unsolicited advices or react on how it was with your break up because you might not have the same experience. Bear with her for a moment, she knows she just needs time and a whole lot of talking to get back on her track.