The day had finally come, August 13, 2011 'Ang Muling Paghaharap' as they say. I know I have tried so many times to end this; made decisions that I told myself were already fixed but then I just can't help it; I needed to clear things up, to know the truth straight from him so that I won't be left hanging. People told me to go on with my life with or without any proper closure, it's easy for them to say it; let them experience this and they'll now how hard it is to make a fix decision.
I was determined to end it already after I said, "Leave me alone..." but surprisingly he chatted me in my Yahoo Messenger because of my status which was "PROMISES are worse than LIES because you don't only make them believe, you make them hope. Hope for something you're NOT sure you can give" He said that the message hit him and again he apologized and told me he's ready to face me again for nth time. I was really confused if I should reply but then I know what I wanted, I wanted this to end so I said okay. I was really scared and depressed because I know everything was about to end, our almost 5-year relationship and even our friendship was at stake. I cried so hard even at my workplace, I know I should hold myself together but it's just so painful to see our relationship go down the drain so quickly. I tried so hard to be strong, I thought I was strong enough but no, I wanted to hold on but I know there's really nothing I can do anymore but to let go. One last very agonizing cry that is what I told myself, so that I won't have to cry anymore during our confrontation.
I planned that before we can talk, we'll go to Church and lit some candles; we usually do this before every monthsary. I just wanted to ask God for strength and enlightenment that I can handle this in a peaceful way and just for old times sake, for the last time. I was also planning to see his mother and sister for the last time, just to bid farewell and extend my gratitude. But sadly it didn't turned out the way I wanted it to be again, maybe God did this for a purpose. Our plan was supposed to be on a Friday afternoon, but then because of some important matters on his part, we had to cancel it; I don't like our talk to be in a rush. I was so mad at him, to think I had cried a bucket of tears or even more on that day, my heart was pounding so fast I almost couldn't breathe. So after a series of arguments, we decided to talk the next day, Saturday morning at Sto. Rosario Church, the place where we usually lit candles.
I arrived ahead of him not that I was excited, actually he was the one who left his place early but had to go somewhere. So I just stood there and wait, he approached me and I said "Hi". He asked if I had already eaten my breakfast and I replied "Not yet!" so we were about to go to Jollibee to eat but I told him that we had to do something first - lit the candles. He backed away instantly, I tried to get him but he refused to and told me not to force him. As I was lightning the candles through my shaking hands, I looked over to him and saw him covering his face with his handkerchief like he was wiping away the tears - as to why I really don't know.
So after I lit the candles alone, we went to Jollibee to eat, I just wanted a burger but he insisted to eat some rice which I didn't refused since he was the paying for it anyway. So we sat down and started to talk and argue at the same time - good old days (lol). He asked me why am I doing this, why am I hurting myself like this? I wanted him to talk but he said that I was the one who wanted this, he really doesn't understand why I want to know the truth - the truth that would only hurt me more. I tried to explain to him that I was already hurt and the pain is there, no matter how I tried to conceal it, it's there and will be there for a long time but I chose not to suffer. I promised not to cry, but my tears just won't stay intact. He got mad because I started to cry, and there were many people; as if I care and besides I wasn't crying hard my tears just fall so easily. I started to cry when I asked him if it was really easy for him to forget our almost 5-year relationship? That he made me believe and worst of all hope that he'll come back to me; and that why he didn't do anything to correct his wrong doing when in fact he knew I was trying to hold on and was willing to accept him.
He asked me what do I really want? He told me that "We're through! He doesn't want it anymore" and I knew that. But that wasn't my question, he also admitted that they are already in a relationship which was not a shock to me. He told me that it started as a joke but then he had fun and didn't want to end it, and the girl knew we never broke up before they started the joke. But he definitely denied that he said we broke up already during their Christmas party where it all started. There were still lots of unanswered questions because he gets mad and we argue again and again, he keeps telling me why do we need to talk about it that it's already clear that it's over because he has someone new. Everything was his fault, and he knew he'll regret it someday.
Every time I started to cry, he gets furious as if he wasn't crying. Both of us were fighting back the tears, mine just fall so easily while he can control it but his eyes get teary as much as mine. Honestly, I don't know if he's telling me the the truth, if those tears were true and if I should still believe him. He told me he doesn't want to change his relationship status because other girls might not chat him anymore; he has a chatmate in California; he entered in a frat group or I don't know so that he'll be STRONG so that he won't cry anymore for reason that we didn't bother to discuss; and that he still didn't delete his profile pics with my face on it - he just hid it because a friend of mine tagged me in one of the photos. I honestly don't know the truth but why does he keeps on doing this and telling me things that I know I shouldn't care anymore.
I know I'll sound stupid and still be in denial if I say that there were instances that I feel there is still something for us, absolutely not now but maybe in the future. I don't know if they are just hints or I'm just losing my mind and couldn't get over this; one thing for certain it's over NOW and that should be the one stuck in my head and not the ff:
1. Not in a serious relationship - He told me he isn't sure about this. I just believe that this is an alibi so that I won't get hurt anymore. But then again he had a conversation with one of our mutual friend, my friend asked him if their relationship was a serious one, he just plainly answered that this he thinks it won't last long. If he's telling the truth, I pity the girl but then why should I care, she deserves it! *Evil grin.
2. Profile Pictures with me hidden - Oh common what why can't he just delete them or told me that it's none of my business? And why did I bother to ask. Did he just told me again that it was there so I won't get hurt? What is he trying to point out? We're through but why keep holding on to those memories/pictures?
3. Mentioned that maybe he'll show up when he has a good job and when his a professional already - Why? So he can treat me, I mean so what he can treat me as a friend even in his first salary, does he really need to be a professional for that and prove something?
4. The teary eyes - Maybe because of guilt, I don't think there is another meaning to it. PERIOD.
5. Shows concern (Going home late, meeting strangers, drinking) - We're friends, but he really doesn't have to bother. He even disapprove that I'm wearing shorts (lol).
6. Mentioned that maybe he might want to come along with my friends on vacations someday - I have asked a friend of mine to delete him in our group and he noticed it, he just told me maybe someday he can come & join again.
7. Accepting our ring and told me that he'll treasure it - Again what for? I thought he would say just throw it or do whatever you want. I know I'll get hurt but I want to see that he doesn't care anymore.
8. SEE YOU SOON - His farewell remarks to me which is Big QUESTION MARK that I know doesn't mean anything so I need to STOP hallucinating about that 'SOON'. Why does he keeps on talking about the future anyway? He could have just shut up.
9. Preggy Issue - My friend told him during their conversation that many couples (3-5 years in a relationship) had broken up or if they haven't broken up they got pregnant. I was so shocked that he wished that I was pregnant instead. WHAAAAT??? Glad that won't ever happen because I have so many plans for my future.
I don't know what to believe anymore, I know there's no point of holding on to these speculations. What for? So that I'll end up hurting myself again, why can't he just hurt me ONE TIME so that it will end here and why can't he stop talking about the future? Why can't I stop thinking about this? WHY? WHY? WHY? He was really curious where I got so many information about THEM, but I didn't reveal it. I even told him that someone from his family told me the first clue about the girl - he really was surprised. That's for me to know and for him to find out, I know he'll find out soon.
I got what I wanted already, a pleasant separation with him - no hard feelings and all. That was all I wanted, I know that there's no use of hoping, I must let go and move on as soon as possible. After a series of drama, we had a pleasant talk about my life, his life, about my friends and his friends. I really missed and will miss that kind of conversation, we can talk about almost anything that pops out of our head but alas the time had come for us to go our separate ways. We had agreed that we have to distance ourselves from each other though it really wasn't a verbal agreement, just a meeting of minds I guess. So we shook hands and he told me "SEE YOU SOON!"