Tuesday, July 19, 2011

The 3-month Rule

Ever heard of the 3-month rule after a break-up? I only heard and I guess most of us had  an idea about this after viewing one of the most unforgettable and romantic film that in some way made an impact in our lives, ONE MORE CHANCE. Even my ex-boyfriend loved this movie, I think he had watched this movie for the nth time and to think this isn't any action movie guys are fond of watching; if my memory is correct he even cried - well not totally crying - boo hoo; but his eyes got misty and all from forcing his tears not to fall. 

It really was a great story, though it was just another ordinary love story I guess that is the reason why it touched so many hearts since many could relate to the story. Just a short description, this story is about a couple, Popoy and Basha, who broke up in their 5-year relationship (If I'm not mistaken) because of endless disagreements and Basha had enough and needed space. The 3-month rule came in when Popoy thought that Basha's co-worker was his new boyfriend, stating there was still one month before they can enter a new relationship. They went on there separate ways, Popoy had a new girlfriend while Basha was happy with her life or she thought she was but not. The famous tag line “She loved me at my worst. You had me at my best and you chose to break my heart…”  had been imprinted in the viewer's hearts.  Whether you call it fate or destiny, Love will always find a way. Love is letting go of someone you love for their happiness - Popoy's girlfriend had to let him go knowing his heart was somewhere else. And I guess true love does wait and it's about giving one more chance. 


The 3-month rule simply implies that you have to give each other three months before entering into a new relationship, not only as a sign of respect especially if the break-up was not a mutual one but also for both parties to heal and think it over. Three months might not be enough to heal the pain not to mention to fully move on, but it's part of the healing process.  

While I was watching the movie with my ex, I couldn't relate very well. We were even asking each other if that will happen to us in 5 years and sadly it did. I'm not sure if one more chance will happen to us, we are in a different situation, but I did follow the 3-month rule and it ended just 2 days ago. I'm not closing my doors to anyone, even to him, but I'm not in a hurry also. If someone would knock on it, then we'll see but not until I'm ready, I don't want to be unfair, I want this break-up to be a learning experience for the better not bitter.

3 comments:

  1. Hi! I somehow came across your blog back in March of last year. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me and I was looking for write-ups that would somehow help me cope with the pain. But, I somehow found your blog when I used the search engine. Reading through some of your posts and I felt relieved that what I had been experiencing back then was normal and I was not the only one having the same line of thought. I hope you re living a happy life right now.

    -The Bliss Forest

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