Five Ways to Deal with a Breakup

A breakup is one of the most difficult situation that nobody wants to encounter but is a reality that one must face. It is never easy, you're in a situation that you feel that your whole world is being torn apart. You feel that the pain is just too much and there's no way that it will heal. I guess we are all familiar with the phrase, "Time heals all wounds" since we often hear our friends saying this to brush aside the pain that we are feeling now. I honestly don't believe in this saying - according to Jeff Herring "Time doesn't heal anything, time simply passes. It is what we do with our lives while time is passing that either helps us, heals us, or keeps us stuck".

So instead of waiting for the TIME, which nobody exactly knows when that said time will come. You need to find ways to heal that broken heart of yours now, since if you just wait for the TIME to pass by doing nothing then mostly the pain will not subside. I've found here 5 ways to Deal with a Breakup, that would not only help you to get back at your Ex but may also be helpful in getting your Ex back. 

 1. BE STRONG

Being strong doesn't necessarily mean that you should not cry, feel depressed, or sulk in your bed after the breakup; it is just normal that you feel this way, there's nothing to be ashamed of. To be able to deal with it; first, you should let it tear you apart but second, you must know how overcome it. You may have beg him to come back and looked so desperate already; that's just understandable everybody goes into that stage especially if you really love your ex but now you need to STOP. Let your ex think that you have moved on and you're happy even without him. When you've moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.

2. MINIMIZE COMMUNICATION

Minimize or if possible there should be no communication with your ex, this may allow both parties to heal and move past the grief but is also very difficult to do especially if you want your ex back. But take note this may also be a key to get your ex back, since how can someone miss you if you are constantly chasing and begging them to come back, right? And indeed you do heal faster and learn how to let go and get on with your life when you know little or nothing at all with what's happening to your ex's life.

3. BE FLEXIBLE

Even if your world had just been torn apart and your heart broken in pieces, DON'T TURN BITTER. Don't force or put him in a situation that he isn't willing to be in, let him decide and choose how he wants things to happen. If you choose your own demanding way, you'll just end up being hurt again because of your expectations. Be flexible, try to understand . This side of you will surely surprise you're ex, and may inspire them to build the lines of communication again. 

4. GO OUT!

A breakup doesn't have to be the end of you, it can and will be a new beginning for you. You had already mourned over that relationship, so now is the time to get yourself together again. Go out with your friends and enjoy life the way you wanted it. Engage in different activities - exercising, travelling, and etc. Not only are you helping yourself to heal, you are also showing your ex that he lost a gem.

5. BE YOURSELF

There's no need to change who you are just because of this breakup. It will just show that you were really affected with it, change can be if it is for the better. Just be yourself, be the person everyone knows you to be even you're ex. This may win back your ex and make him remember why he fell in love with you in the first place.

Above all these, we should not forget to PRAY, this is one of the most powerful tool to be able to heal not only heartbreaks but all the problems in life. In God, I trust!