Lesson 2 - Flip your Thoughts

Have you been thinking about your ex lately? He can't seem to be out of your mind, right? We'll there's really nothing to worry about that, every broken-hearted person do that so you're not alone. But the thing is you need to stop that if you really want to get your life back. And this is the second tip I got from Amelie, which is to Flip your thoughts.

Ever since our break up which was 2 months ago already, there wasn't a single day that he wasn't on my mind. Everyday I kept thinking about him, missing him and wondering how he was - is he suffering too or is he happy with someone else? Thinking about him which is inevitable just pains me more and I know that but how can you tell your brain to stop? Even when I'm asleep he's still there because he's constantly present in almost all my dreams. 

Many times I have told me brain to STOOOPPPPPPPPPP!!! Well, it does stop in just seconds but then will resume to what it was thinking. Stupid Brain. It really isn't easy to stop it because these thought have been hard wired already in my brain, sometimes I think I like the idea of having an amnesia just to forget everything. You can see how desperate I am already, but that really isn't a good idea just a good thinking. 

Anyways, as advised by Amelie I should flip the thoughts inside my head with a more realistic and positive statement instead of thinking "I'm never gonna be okay" or "I'll never fall in love again" and the likes. Did you know that we should thank our brain for thinking things like this that makes us go crazy each day? Really, it is just protecting us because having a broken heart hurts, and our subconscious doesn't want us to feel that pain again. Uhmmmmm? Okay, I'll try to thank my brain for making me go crazy.

Seriously, when a negative thought enters our mind, we need to pause and break that moment instantly and replace it with a positive one. My problem now is how to think about the positive, is thinking about all the bad side of your ex fall into this criteria? Maybe. I have read in another article that you should write all the bad stuffs about your ex (e.i. Over-protective, Liar, Cheater, Not Romantic, etc.) just about anything that you don't like about your ex, then write also all the good things that this break up can offer you (e.i.You can go out with friends without having to worry about what time you'll be home, You can do whatever you like that was against the will of your ex before, etc.). So every time you think about your ex, you can just flip on that paper or wherever you have written it and read it, they say this is helpful but honestly I haven't done this part but I'll start now and share this in my next post.