Lesson 3 - Reminders be Gone

Even though how hard you try to forget your ex, it seems that nothing is working. Whatever you do and wherever you are he seems to be running in your mind, almost everything just reminds you of him. Well, okay maybe not all the time, but most of the time perhaps. You may be having fun with your friends but then just suddenly something reminds you of him, so instead of you wanting to have fun, you're stuck with the memories of him again. Why Oh Why? Well, Amelie explained that the smallest details will trigger a memory because they lie deep within your subconscious. So here comes tip no.3 - make small changes and socialize with people who didn't know you as a couple.

For girls, ever heard of "The break-up haircut theory"? I guess we all do. But really why do girls cut their hair after a breakup?

1. Freedom. You cut your hair to show to the whole world especially to your ex-boyfriend that you're FREE and that you're no longer "stuck" in the past. You are cutting off a part of you, a part of your past and wanting to start a new.

 2. Change. Sometimes it is purely because you want a change. You just need to look different to feel brand new and to have a fresh start to be able to boost your confidence when facing the world again.

3. Revenge. Some say that this is a technique to show to their ex-boyfriend what they are missing, that you look good and they just replaced you with a THAT kind of face? LOL. This is also a way to attract your new prospects.

Aside from the breakup haircut, you may also need to do some changes in your surroundings especially if it reminds you of your ex all the time. You may re-arrange your stuffs and put all the those things that will remind you of him in a box, I really don't like the idea of throwing and burning it away. Avoid also going to places that you used to go and things that you two used to do if possible.

Going out with friends is one way to ease the pain a bit, but it would be much better if those you hang out with during these times are those who doesn't know you as a couple. I'm not saying that you abandon your old friends, that would be just stupid but you have to try to mingle with others so that name of your ex wouldn't be mentioned in any topic.

In my case, I didn't go through that break-up haircut thingy, mine was a pre-break up. I cut my hair a week before our break-up, not that I was anticipating it already though I was a little but didn't really wanted it to happen. I just cut it so that if it would really happen, I don't like people to associate my haircut with my break-up and that's that. As for those reminders, those teddy bears he have given me I hid them in my cabinet but then my aunt found it and asked if she could placed it in her car as decoration which is totally fine with me.  I have only few reminders of him at home since as mentioned his not the romantic type so gifts are seldom. But I hate places though especially the mall which is near my office, memories just pop out everywhere, so I told myself not to go there anymore. And as for friends, I do think it would really be best to hang out with those who didn't know us as a couple because it pains me a lot that before he was with our group now someone is missing, and my friends are torturing me also though they are supportive in a way but mentioning his name would just tear me apart all over again. So now I am shutting my world as mentioned in other blogs, to avoid him, to avoid any contacts with him, and to avoid any topics about him. I just don't like to hear anymore that has to do with him,no more please.