Initially when facing a break-up, you have two options either you FIGHT or LET GO. Imagine, there are only two options which would turn your whole world in topsy-turvy, but you have to decide. It really doesn't matter who broke up the relationship, you must concentrate more on how to deal with it and know what you really want. Try to ask yourself, is this relationship really worth saving? Trying to deal with your broken heart is really a challenge, it's a battle between your heart and your brain. You brain tells you to STOP thinking about your ex and just forget everything about him, but your heart just won't let you.
I chose to trust my heart and believed that our relationship was worth saving so I tried to fight for it. Maybe I made the wrong decision but I didn't regret it; I told myself at least I did my best so I don't have to think of all the endless what-ifs that would surely drive me nuts, but I also felt more pain because of it. Then I came across this quote "The pain is necessary, but the suffering is optional", so I had to do something and again I don't believe in the saying, 'time heals all wounds' . I searched everything about how to mend a broken heart, how to heal a broken heart, how to forget your ex and many more. I'm dead serious about this, I really need a cure for this illness called break-up.
After searching through Google, I have found one website by Amelie Chance that caught my attention though her story was I think more tragic than mine, but I guess all broken-hearted people can relate to any story about broken relationship whether it's a strong bond like marriage, an affair or serious teen romance. Anyway, before you can start your healing process, you have to take a survey on What type of broken heart you have? So since it's free and there's no harm in trying I answered it and was surprised with the result.
The result was that I fall into a category called "Emptiness" which is a pretty high category of pain. At first, I doubted it, I took this survey one month after our break-up already, was I really experiencing 'emptiness' until now? I took the survey again now 2 months after the break-up and got the same result. Doubts be gone. So it was stated there that the reason why it is so painful is that more than loneliness, I'm feeling emptiness also. I never expected that kind of result and even denied it but as I continue on reading it, I thought maybe she's right, maybe that's why it's so hard to let go. Though how hard it is, I was comforted in a way knowing that there is still HOPE, I mean I'm not the only broken-hearted person in this damn world, many have experienced and went through this pain some are even worst than mine, but now they're happy so why can't I be, I'm still young and not even married.
Actually there are 15 healing steps, but I am only gonna share a bit of detailed on the 5 lessons I have received from my email since most of those healing steps like other websites are to be purchased. But from all the websites I have encountered this one really caught my attention, if I have the money right now I would invest on it but for this time, I guess the emails are quite enough. Thanks Amelie.
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